In this section, we dig into what senior healthcare is really all about (the answer might surprise you) with the questions you must ask to get the best care for your loved one. Plus,. we'll look at some of the reasons you might feel uncomfortable asking for help in the doctor's office, as well as some solutions for finding a doctor who really cares as much as you do.

I'll help you...

• Adopt a "partnership approach" appreciation: You might think that making suggestions to your loved one's doctor is intrusive or annoying, but when done right, it's actually helpful, so let's change your thinking around that idea. I guarantee not only will this shift help you, but it will tremendously improve the quality of care your loved one gets.

• Develop a team mindset: Learn how to trust your loved one's doctors so that you always have medical care at your fingertips and a cell phone away, avoiding long waits, and emergency rooms.

• Learn the simplest way to stop medical errors from becoming a hospital stay. We will look at how one medical provider can change your life, time, and money all for the better.

It's not enough to know what dementia is. If your loved one doesn't care what you have to say, they're never going to understand why you are trying to change their behavior. In this section, we'll look at the different types of dementia so you have a complete plan for what's ahead.

You'll learn to...

• Recognize changing behavior: The most important dementia engagement tool you have is your ability to know this disease. In this section, we'll look at the many types of behavior and how this knowledge gets you light-years ahead.

• Make a strong connection with your loved one: When your seniors and family are confident that you know what you're talking about, they are much more likely to pitch in and help you. We'll look at six normal-aging memory loss symptoms, and 12 dementia symptoms.

• Keep your loved one calm with systematic approaches. Imagine your senior who actually accepts your help and looking forward to it. That's exactly what your goal is and in this section, we'll look at some ways you can make this happen.

It can be intimidating to ask others to help you support the care of your loved one, and if you overthink it, you might just find you never ask anyone at all. In this section, I'll share some practical advice you can use to not only change how you think about money issues but also how you can get around your loved one who is not talking at all about last wishes.

You'll discover how to...

• Shift your mindset about legal and financial matters. Learn to change how you think about the privacy of those you care for and get the updates you need in order not to go broke while caring for them.

• Appreciate the decisions your seniors make about their healthcare directives and the money they may not even have. We'll look at the checklist you need of all the most important documents so you'll never scramble at the last minute to make decisions.

• Provide alternatives for your loved one. Sometimes what seniors really want are options. We'll look at the ways you can provide better support and money to your seniors and yourself so free time becomes available.

The number one reason you feel intimated about moving your loved one is that you're comparing your own wants and desires to their life. In this section, you'll learn how easy it is to find them the right place to live, guilt-fee.

You'll learn to...

• Search your options with more confidence: It's hard to move your loved ones when they do not want to go. They have valid points which make you unsure of yourself. Choosing the right place and the right time will instill confidence in you.

• Interview well. Every place, including your own home or theirs, can use a good inspection. But we often think to interview and tour only senior facilities. I'll show you the fifty-three questions I used when I screened senior homes.

• Show, instead of tell: Getting your loved one to visit a facility is easier than you think when you know how to approach them. I'll show you the 17 questions you must ask first before considering the type of home all seniors will eventually need.

If you "hate to say 'No'", then this section is for you because inside, I am going to give you the best strategies for getting your own self-care in place.

By the end of this section, you'll confidently...

• Choose the right words for each situation: Being well-prepared and using your feelings will make speaking up easier and less complicated.

• Eliminate "whatever" (rolling eyes) syndrome: The hardest part of saying "no" is just saying it. We'll look at ways that you can make this part easier and save a load of agitation and anger from others. Here's a fun fact: Our members grow leaps and bounds when we teach them these strategies. All we do is cheer them on.

• Create a solid line in the sand: The very best way to get comfortable with caring for someone is to create habits you can stick with. This alone will serve both you and your senior well throughout your senior care journey, so the sooner you embrace it, the most peace of mind you'll have.

Lesson

Family members love time off. It's easy to find free moments (no need to plan days in advance) and easy to do more things for themselves, but the real reason is that they make it easy to get results. No one wants to invest six months into senior care to learn how to do it well. We want to know that aging is not a new fad and there are well-evidenced ways to do it well.

But as a family caregiver, we are so consumed with overdelivering that we often bury the moments we need with busy work our seniors don't need. All we have to do is ask them and they will tell us what they need. You'll be surprised.

Section six helps you solve that by offering…

3 important ways to narrow your focus while providing even more value to your days.

One question you must answer about your senior. This one shift in your process will make working with your calendar infinitely easier. Do not skip this step!

The inadvertent (and highly profitable) benefit of narrowing your focus. Get this right, and over time you’ll easily surpass what you’d save in exhaustion, frustration, and uncertainty.